The dream, ingrained in our minds from early childhood, is of a small country house with red shutters, a white picket fence, a manicured lawn, maybe a tire swing hanging from an old oak tree. Where the wife cooks, clean, and cares for the doe-eyed children, and the husband dons his suit and tie, kisses his wife, grabs his coffee and briefcase, and heads to the daily races. The children are then hustled out the door with back packs filled with books, homework, and brown paper bag lunches and into a school bus where they are whisked away to school. The wife spends the day cleaning, making dinner, and gossiping with the neighbors. When the children return from school, they grab a couple snacks and nestle into the couch to watch their favorite afternoon cartoons before it's time to begin their homework. The father returns home with a "Honey, I'm home", and hangs up his hat and coat in time to receive a martini from his adoring wife who kisses him on the cheek and asks "How was work?" The children, upon hearing their father's voice, race into the room and seize his legs shouting "Daddy's home" and drag him away to help them with their homework. The wife allows them to work together while she finished up the mashed potatoes and roast beef, then calls them into the dinning room for supper. They say grace, eat, then watch "The Honeymooners" until bedtime where the father reads them a story and tucks them in. The mother kisses them goodnight and flicks off the light. The children drift off peacefully into dreams of summer sports and pirate adventures while Mom and Dad sit in bed and read quietly until they too fall asleep.
It's true that some families enjoy a life of relative peace, love, and security. It is also true that others, do not. Not everyone has a "Leave it to Beaver" childhood, and not every married couple enjoys a "I love Lucy" relationship.
Here's the shocker, a dependent relationship is not a necessity. Friends, family, etc work just as well. "Every individual is an island and can be an island. You do not need a significant other to live life." (Foamy, illwillpress.com)
Become a strong and happy individual BEFORE entering into a relationship. Your relationships will work out better, and you can avoid becoming dependent on others for your personal happiness.
Want real love?
Get a dog.
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